The start and end of anything can feel scary for a child with disabilities, especially one who thrives on structure and routine. And what’s the biggest constant in that cycle? School!
The beginning of the school year can be tough because your child might miss their old teacher. Then, by the end of the year, the uncertainty of summer and lack of structure can bring its own challenges. Changes in staff, classrooms, and even schools can be overwhelming for everyone involved but there are ways to make these transitions easier.
1. Start with Communication
Successful school-year transitions begin with communication. My biggest piece of advice is to schedule a transition meeting with your child’s IEP team before the current school year ends.
When you contact your coordinator to set it up, mention that you’d love for the incoming teacher to attend. This helps you put a face to the name, and helps the teacher understand your expectations as part of your child’s support team.
Here are some helpful questions to ask during your meeting:
- Will my child keep the same support staff?
- What accommodations will carry over?
- Can we visit the new classroom before the first day?
2. Prepare Your Child Early
While you’re planning with the IEP team, it’s just as important, if not more, to start preparing your child. We can help our kids get ready emotionally and visually for the new school year.
In our family, visuals are a big help, but you can also use social stories, practice routines, or set timers and reminders. Try these ideas:
- Use photos or short videos of the new classroom, teacher, and schedule.
- Read books or social stories about “moving up” or starting a new grade.
- Practice morning routines and bus schedules before school starts.
- If possible, arrange a summer meet-and-greet with the new teacher.
3. Don’t Forget Yourself
Transitions aren’t just hard for our kids, they’re hard for us, too. Letting go of trusted adults in our child’s life can be emotional. I’ve built strong bonds with teachers, aides, and therapists, and my heart always aches when it’s time to move on.
Take a moment to show your gratitude. Send a note, a message, or even a small thank-you gift. Let them know how much of an impact they’ve made on your family, they’ll appreciate it more than you know.
Final Thoughts
Transitions may never be completely smooth, but with preparation, communication, and compassion, for your child and yourself, they can become less stressful and more meaningful. Every year brings growth, new relationships, and new opportunities for your child to shine.
